Hello Friends and Family,
I just wanted to let everyone know that I am not meaning to neglect anyone who has been so generous to us with gifts. The truth is that I have not yet gotten a list of those who have given because The Chalmers (who have been so gracious to set everything up for us) have been out of town and busy trying to catch up with their own lives since Harry's fall (Jimmy and Harry are partners so they were also greatly affected) and we've been so busy with therapies and adjusting to day to day life.
We plan to exchange some info as soon as it becomes possible and I assure you that cards full of sincere thanks are on their way. Some of you who sent gifts directly to us (instead of through the church) probably have received cards already.
We have been so grateful for the prayers, checks, food, words of encouragement, flowers, emails, cards, "babysitting", school teaching, errand running, van borrowing, even getting our son to ball practices, etc. You have no idea how God has used EVERY offer to bless us and meet our need right as we had it. So, until your card arrives, please know that we are thinking of you and are asking God to bless you for your generosity ---- whatever it's form.
Sincerely,
Kristie and Family
PS: And there are a few of you, and you know who you are, who keep doing nice things for us and are making it really hard to finish the card because I have to keep adding things to your list before I can get it to you. j/k That's not a bad problem for us to have.
Thursday, April 3, 2008
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
12:17 a.m. April 1st -- No April Fool's
12:17 am
Harry is doing well and I think his spirits are continuing to rise as his abilities increase. He was able to visit a job site (actually, the site where he fell) on Sunday after church. I think it was good for him to see his clients, Mr. and Mrs. Cook. They are a lovely couple and seem to really care about him and his recovery. He's been able to get out of the house some, too. When the pain eases and he feels pretty good he likes to fit as much in as he can but he still tries not to overdo. He's made that mistake before and he never feels good after he pushes too hard.
His therapy schedule right now is PT twice a week and OT twice a week. He's really, really sore afterward but then by the following day he's usually got more mobility and that makes him feel energetic.
We can tell when he's restless and just has to "get his hands" on something. He starts recruiting us....usually when we are right in the middle of something else. He's so funny. On Easter, while I was cooking and preparing for friends, he decided to make Turkish Delight. And by that I mean, he had McKenzie make it while he supervised from a small stool and occasionally moved, though way too slow in a bustling galley-style kitchen. We all got a few good laughs...including him. About 3/4 of the way through he admitted that perhaps he had been over zealous. But, ever-faithful, he finished his task. It was heartbreaking when, hours later, we finally got to taste the Turkish Delight....and nearly spit it out. It was AWFUL. We all decided that it was not his fault and if the recipe has called for a different flavor it would have been wonderful. And although we all agreed we should try it again using a different flavor, honestly, we probably never will. But, it did make us feel better to keep the recipe anyway.
I've been able to take on more hours tutoring and even working with a friend of mine who is also a business owner (but she really makes money at it:) ) Between homeschooling, planning our daughters upcoming ceremony, keeping the house, driving and caring for Harry I'm finding it a little difficult to find the time to work more.
My mother, Nan, is absolutely wonderful and is practically running Curves on her own. I help when I can and do what I can from home. Our members, though are asking when I'll come back and some are asking why I'm never there anymore. I feel badly and want to get back to see them. I love being in the circuit and training and helping them reach goals and feel empowered. The truth is I just have to bring in more money right now and that requires part-time work elsewhere in addition. Please pray that God will continue to provide creative job opportunities for me so I'll be able to continue to care for my family right now...and over this next year.
I want to thank everyone again. Cards, notes, phone calls and gifts keep trickling in and we are so grateful. Please keep praying-we've got a long way to go.
I'll end on a really happy note: Last Friday I received an invitation to a Girl's Night with some friends. It was a wild girl's night (at her mother's home) - not the kind that is conducive to deep philosophical discussions. (I usually love those but I just couldn't take another one) This was more like loud music and women being silly. Lots of laughing and really bad singing...to go along with the poor dancing. Anyway, I didn't expect to go just because so much needed to be done. But it worked out and I had a wonderful time. It was just what I needed. Honestly, it felt great that I had no one to take care of for a few hours.....no dishes, laundry, children struggling in reading, or a dear husband. Everyone was satisfied and I felt like Cinderella getting to go to the ball. So, thanks girls for the invite. Loved it! Thanks, McKenzie for sitting with Daddy so I could go. Love ya, son. And thanks, Harry for encouraging me to and have some well-deserved fun. What a great family!
Harry is doing well and I think his spirits are continuing to rise as his abilities increase. He was able to visit a job site (actually, the site where he fell) on Sunday after church. I think it was good for him to see his clients, Mr. and Mrs. Cook. They are a lovely couple and seem to really care about him and his recovery. He's been able to get out of the house some, too. When the pain eases and he feels pretty good he likes to fit as much in as he can but he still tries not to overdo. He's made that mistake before and he never feels good after he pushes too hard.
His therapy schedule right now is PT twice a week and OT twice a week. He's really, really sore afterward but then by the following day he's usually got more mobility and that makes him feel energetic.
We can tell when he's restless and just has to "get his hands" on something. He starts recruiting us....usually when we are right in the middle of something else. He's so funny. On Easter, while I was cooking and preparing for friends, he decided to make Turkish Delight. And by that I mean, he had McKenzie make it while he supervised from a small stool and occasionally moved, though way too slow in a bustling galley-style kitchen. We all got a few good laughs...including him. About 3/4 of the way through he admitted that perhaps he had been over zealous. But, ever-faithful, he finished his task. It was heartbreaking when, hours later, we finally got to taste the Turkish Delight....and nearly spit it out. It was AWFUL. We all decided that it was not his fault and if the recipe has called for a different flavor it would have been wonderful. And although we all agreed we should try it again using a different flavor, honestly, we probably never will. But, it did make us feel better to keep the recipe anyway.
I've been able to take on more hours tutoring and even working with a friend of mine who is also a business owner (but she really makes money at it:) ) Between homeschooling, planning our daughters upcoming ceremony, keeping the house, driving and caring for Harry I'm finding it a little difficult to find the time to work more.
My mother, Nan, is absolutely wonderful and is practically running Curves on her own. I help when I can and do what I can from home. Our members, though are asking when I'll come back and some are asking why I'm never there anymore. I feel badly and want to get back to see them. I love being in the circuit and training and helping them reach goals and feel empowered. The truth is I just have to bring in more money right now and that requires part-time work elsewhere in addition. Please pray that God will continue to provide creative job opportunities for me so I'll be able to continue to care for my family right now...and over this next year.
I want to thank everyone again. Cards, notes, phone calls and gifts keep trickling in and we are so grateful. Please keep praying-we've got a long way to go.
I'll end on a really happy note: Last Friday I received an invitation to a Girl's Night with some friends. It was a wild girl's night (at her mother's home) - not the kind that is conducive to deep philosophical discussions. (I usually love those but I just couldn't take another one) This was more like loud music and women being silly. Lots of laughing and really bad singing...to go along with the poor dancing. Anyway, I didn't expect to go just because so much needed to be done. But it worked out and I had a wonderful time. It was just what I needed. Honestly, it felt great that I had no one to take care of for a few hours.....no dishes, laundry, children struggling in reading, or a dear husband. Everyone was satisfied and I felt like Cinderella getting to go to the ball. So, thanks girls for the invite. Loved it! Thanks, McKenzie for sitting with Daddy so I could go. Love ya, son. And thanks, Harry for encouraging me to and have some well-deserved fun. What a great family!
Sunday, March 16, 2008
March 14th Update
Today was Harry's second Sunday at church. It was nice to see all of our friends there. I'm glad for Harry, too, that he got to see everyone so excited to see him again and tell him how good he's looking, etc. He is looking good. His recovery is coming along but he's still in so much pain. I wish I could take that away for him. He's got good pain meds but the pain never stops so it just goes from strong to dull. Then, as soon as the dose wears off, it's strong again.
Right now, he's got tiny pins trying to come through his skin. The really bizarre thing is that the doctors just said if they poke all the way through we need to put neosporin on it. That's too weird to be normal in my opinion....but I'm not a doctor. Anyway, it's no wonder he's in so much pain. He's also being very careful NOT to take the medicine anytime he can....he doesn't want to become addicted. (so much to worry about).
Harry's Mom, Sally, has been here with us for the past week. She just left this morning. She was a great blessing: taking Harry to his doctor appointments, physical therapy appointments, helping to run errands and get caught up on stuff in the house. She was also able to help out financially. I think, now that she's gone, things are really beginning to set in for me - emotionally.
Since the beginning (Feb 21), I've been so focused on comforting the kids and Harry. And, now, the reality is sinking in that, practically speaking, the things we shared before will fall on me. I'm not sure how I'll become all things to all people but I'm sure God will get me through that, too. Don't get me wrong, I'm not feeling sorry for myself. In fact, I'm already liking my new found courage. I'm just also feeling the weight of what this situation will really require. I've been making a few changes around the house/yard to make it easier for the kids and I to do the necessary chores, etc. I've cut down some tree branches, handled some tools and parts (or whatever) that Harry had been going through from his shed, cleaned up some of the yard stuff and construction debris that he had on the side of the house. It was heavy and Ta'Ray and I were tired but we were also proud of the work we had done.
Hopefully, I'll have lots of other success stories to tell over the next several months. Right now I'm gonna go spend some time with the kiddos.....sorry for the abrupt ending but they are waiting for me.
Thanks again for all of the help and support. Sincerely, Kristie (and Family)
Right now, he's got tiny pins trying to come through his skin. The really bizarre thing is that the doctors just said if they poke all the way through we need to put neosporin on it. That's too weird to be normal in my opinion....but I'm not a doctor. Anyway, it's no wonder he's in so much pain. He's also being very careful NOT to take the medicine anytime he can....he doesn't want to become addicted. (so much to worry about).
Harry's Mom, Sally, has been here with us for the past week. She just left this morning. She was a great blessing: taking Harry to his doctor appointments, physical therapy appointments, helping to run errands and get caught up on stuff in the house. She was also able to help out financially. I think, now that she's gone, things are really beginning to set in for me - emotionally.
Since the beginning (Feb 21), I've been so focused on comforting the kids and Harry. And, now, the reality is sinking in that, practically speaking, the things we shared before will fall on me. I'm not sure how I'll become all things to all people but I'm sure God will get me through that, too. Don't get me wrong, I'm not feeling sorry for myself. In fact, I'm already liking my new found courage. I'm just also feeling the weight of what this situation will really require. I've been making a few changes around the house/yard to make it easier for the kids and I to do the necessary chores, etc. I've cut down some tree branches, handled some tools and parts (or whatever) that Harry had been going through from his shed, cleaned up some of the yard stuff and construction debris that he had on the side of the house. It was heavy and Ta'Ray and I were tired but we were also proud of the work we had done.
Hopefully, I'll have lots of other success stories to tell over the next several months. Right now I'm gonna go spend some time with the kiddos.....sorry for the abrupt ending but they are waiting for me.
Thanks again for all of the help and support. Sincerely, Kristie (and Family)
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Harry's Doctors Appointment
Harry's Mom, Sally, flew in on Sunday afternoon to see her son and to help out with his recovery and allow me to get back to work. He had his first follow up doctor visit at Duke on Monday. They took the casts off of his wrists - it turns out regardless of the weight and the plaster, they weren't "casts" after all. They were splints. Well, whatever they were, they are gone now. I got to see his arm unwrapped for the first time since Feb. 21. I know this sounds completely dumb but I never thought about scars on his arms. I did on his leg - but not his hands and arms. I only saw his right hand/arm. He has about a 2" long scar down the center of his hand - picture closing your hand like a sandwhich parellel with your forearm...that crease in the middle of his hand is where they made an incision. He has another larger one down the forearm. They just removed his stitches so right now it has that "Frankenstein" look of a center line and holes on either side. The marker the surgeon's used is still on his skin, too. They've wrapped both arms in gauze and now he wears black supportive braces that velcro up the forearm and cover most of his hands. It's so much lighter and easier to manuever. I'm sure that will assist him in getting his balance back as he continues practicing to walk.
More good news....I think earlier I reported that he would have to have surgery on both wrists in a couple of months. I just found out that he'll only need surgery on his left wrist. Evidently, the metal plate in his right wrist stays in. I did not know that.
He has therapy exercises that he can do now for his hands and arms...they are different for each arm because his injuries are different. He tried some last night and I could see how stiff and painful both hand/wrists were. It's amazing how quickly the body accepts it's current circumstances. That can be a great blessing but then when you are ready to rehabilitate it also can be a rough beginning until it recognizes that you are changing it's state once again.
He can get his arms damp now which means he can begin to take showers...no more freezing while I bathe him and rinse him with a cloth as he sits in a chair in the middle of a room. I'm sure he'll really miss that.
Tuesday, he goes to PT for his leg and Wednesday he goes to his post-op doctor appointment back at Duke. It's nice to have Sally to help with all of these appointments.
The kids and I are catching up on homeschool and I'm able to get back to work. I don't think I ever posted it but while Harry and I were at Duke I received a phone message (at Midnight) from the Oxford Police Dept. saying that there was an emergency having to do with my gym there and to please return the call right away. Well, I had my phone ringer off, so it didn't wake Harry, and I didn't get the message until early the next morning. I called Diane (my partner) right away to see if she had already spoken with them. She had and she was able to tell me the details.
Evidently, a car was speeding down the main road right in front of my store and the driver decided to pass the car it was quickly approaching. When it did, the speeding car lost control and ran into a large, metal city trash can hurling it into my (floor to ceiling) glass windows. It then proceeded into the tree directly in front of my store....and it hit the next tree a couple of store fronts down. Wow! (Okay, God....you have my complete and undivided attention.) Whoever said when it rains it pours was a genius and we should have really listened better to his warning!
Anyway, Diane had actually gone to the scene that night and was able (with my Grandy's help) to get some plywood covering the windows. We have insurance and all of that but I feel like I need a secretary just to deal with all the paperwork we are generating...between medical, prescription and business insurances I'm beginning to feel just a wee bit overwhelmed. But I must say that God has also put such wonderful people in my life and they are all helping in so many ways.
Still, every so often I find myself wanting to shout..."Calgon, Take me away"......
What's Up With Harry on March 9th
Well, Harry's been home for about a day and half. He's been sitting in his (a borrowed) recliner a lot and I think likes being back where the action is. I found a special table a lot like the rolling tray table at the hospital and a couple of bins to hold all of his medicines and other things he needs to have near him. He's got quite a set up.
Last week he set a goal to be in church this Sunday and he made it. We took a cake that said "Welcome Home Harry" to include our Sunday school class in his victories - they've been so supportive. Another dear friend brought a wheel chair over on Saturday for him to use at church. McKenzie did most of the driving since Harry can't use his hands. I think we only ran into 1 or 2 doorways :) Pretty good for a new driver.
Last week he set a goal to be in church this Sunday and he made it. We took a cake that said "Welcome Home Harry" to include our Sunday school class in his victories - they've been so supportive. Another dear friend brought a wheel chair over on Saturday for him to use at church. McKenzie did most of the driving since Harry can't use his hands. I think we only ran into 1 or 2 doorways :) Pretty good for a new driver.
It was good for Harry to see his friends at church and remember that life is being lived outside of medical facilities.
Friday, March 7, 2008
The Big Day
Today was the day we've been waiting for. HARRY CAME HOME!!! We borrowed a van from our sweet neighbors so Harry wouldn't have to jump up into our Suburban or bend too low to get into my Mom's Saturn. The van fit all 6 of us and his big customized walker perfectly. We were quite a sight picking him up but the smile on his face when he saw me, Braelyn, McKenzie, Ta'Ray, and Nan walk-in was worth it. (Wait 'til he sees the "Team Polk" shirts we've made for us to wear to church on Sunday!)
He's moving well. He's very sore, the pain is kicking in (we're still waiting for the prescriptions to get ready) and he says it's colder here than at the hospital but even so, he's really happy to be home. It's so nice, as the mom I guess, to have all of my family back under the same roof. I'm able to relax in a way that I couldn't when I felt we were all spread out and anchored to different places. Now, life is beginning to feel like "normal" - of course at the Polk house we're not real sure what that means.
We picked up some cheap, but warm, clothes for Harry. We have to cut the sleeves off of the hoodies to make room for his casts. He stays cold because of the blood thinner that he has to take (to prevent blood clots). Also, soft, loose house pants are a must because one of his incisions are right where the waist band of pants would fall. Plus they help keep him warm. Who knows...maybe his progressive fashion will catch on and we'll see this style being sported all over town.
Well, it's time to go out again and get that pain med for Harry. He'll be even happier when I get back. I'll try to fill you in on the rest sometime today....Harry keeps me running and now that we're home there's so much to catch up on between the kids, work and the house so if you don't hear from me right away you'll know why. Love to you all, Kristie
He's moving well. He's very sore, the pain is kicking in (we're still waiting for the prescriptions to get ready) and he says it's colder here than at the hospital but even so, he's really happy to be home. It's so nice, as the mom I guess, to have all of my family back under the same roof. I'm able to relax in a way that I couldn't when I felt we were all spread out and anchored to different places. Now, life is beginning to feel like "normal" - of course at the Polk house we're not real sure what that means.
We picked up some cheap, but warm, clothes for Harry. We have to cut the sleeves off of the hoodies to make room for his casts. He stays cold because of the blood thinner that he has to take (to prevent blood clots). Also, soft, loose house pants are a must because one of his incisions are right where the waist band of pants would fall. Plus they help keep him warm. Who knows...maybe his progressive fashion will catch on and we'll see this style being sported all over town.
Well, it's time to go out again and get that pain med for Harry. He'll be even happier when I get back. I'll try to fill you in on the rest sometime today....Harry keeps me running and now that we're home there's so much to catch up on between the kids, work and the house so if you don't hear from me right away you'll know why. Love to you all, Kristie
Thursday, March 6, 2008
Update on Harry March 5th
Such Big News and yet I'm too tired to go into great detail...just wanted everyone to know that Harry walked today WITHOUT his walker! So proud of him...he's like superman (obviously without the cape or we wouldn't be in this situation...lol) But nothing keeps him down long. Incredibly strong in body and mind....no wonder I married him....and I'd do it again. Thanks to all you for your huge support and encouraging words to and about him. No doubt that was part of his motivation - doesn't want to let his great friends down. We love ya'll so much and so appreciate all you do. Ya know how scripture describes the "body of Christ" and how each of us is like a different part of the body but when we work together we act as whole? Well, that's what this has been like for us. Each of you has filled a different but very specific need and it's been amazing. As soon as I can get home and back on track...even just a little, I'm mailing out thank you cards to all of you. You're just wonderful.
More good news ...
A recliner and a wheelchair have been provided. Thanks to all of you who offered.
More good news ...
A recliner and a wheelchair have been provided. Thanks to all of you who offered.
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
Pictures
Kristie sent me some photos today and I'll get them on the blog just as soon as possible. Here's the first ...
More to come.
Shelley
Update - March 4th
Harry had another good day yesterday! It was his first day of full physical therapy and he did great. He was really tired at the end of the day...I think that felt good to him though.
After talking with the PT and OT we've realized a couple needs. Harry will need a recliner (for a few months) and a wheelchair (for a few weeks or so). We'd like to borrow these instead of making purchases as we'll only need them very temporarily. If you have one that can be loaned, or know someone who could, please post a comment or feel free to email me directly at kristiepolk@gmail.com
Our new goal for Harry coming home is Friday. We're excited about having "Daddy" back and trying to get some normalcy back into our lives. We know that life won't be truly "normal" for quite awhile but all being home together...and back in our own beds...is a good start.
One of Harry's personal goals is to be back at church this Sunday. That's one reason for the wheelchair. The OT says that he needs to get out once he's back home. She agrees with those who know him well, he'll go crazy if he has to just sit around and feel like he's not useful.
Thanks again for everyone's support and care. You are all sooooo awesome and appreciate you dearly.
After talking with the PT and OT we've realized a couple needs. Harry will need a recliner (for a few months) and a wheelchair (for a few weeks or so). We'd like to borrow these instead of making purchases as we'll only need them very temporarily. If you have one that can be loaned, or know someone who could, please post a comment or feel free to email me directly at kristiepolk@gmail.com
Our new goal for Harry coming home is Friday. We're excited about having "Daddy" back and trying to get some normalcy back into our lives. We know that life won't be truly "normal" for quite awhile but all being home together...and back in our own beds...is a good start.
One of Harry's personal goals is to be back at church this Sunday. That's one reason for the wheelchair. The OT says that he needs to get out once he's back home. She agrees with those who know him well, he'll go crazy if he has to just sit around and feel like he's not useful.
Thanks again for everyone's support and care. You are all sooooo awesome and appreciate you dearly.
Monday, March 3, 2008
Update on Kristie - and Harry too
I left Harry's rehab room early this morning to go home and get ready for church. McKenzie (our 10 yr old son) came to the rehab center and took my place while I was gone. Today was emotional for me mostly because of Harry's sadness on Saturday. He just felt defeated and overwhelmed. I'm sure some of that was due to the medications and some was just because of this tough situation. He's been battling these feelings for several days and I felt like I was running out of strength for both of us
I wanted so badly to go to church where I could just rest...not catch up on neglected laundry and cleaning, plan for the upcoming week of school or even worry about what would be cooked for dinner. I really wanted to be refreshed and refilled...I'm feeling so tired and depleted. I didn't even have the energy to analyze my self-centeredness. I just embraced it and got even more excited about relaxing and being spoon fed a message of truth and hope.
Once at church I felt myself shrink from my usual outgoing self...I wanted to be there but I didn't want anyone to talk to me. I found myself looking away from familiar faces to avoid small talk. Nothing personal I just knew I couldn't handle questions or polite conversation. Then, I ran into a sweet couple - new friends - who inquired about Harry when they saw me alone. I realized they hadn't heard so I told the story...a quick version. And then, the question, "How are YOU doing?" The next thing I knew they were offering, with great sincerity, to help in any way we needed. They prayed for me and my family in the hallway. For a moment, I faded out of the circle of prayer and saw us as the body of Christ...operating the way we were meant to. God was smiling. I didn't feel like a burden...I think because they didn't take our problems on themselves they just joined with me and we ran directly back to the Lord. The only One who knows the whole story (beginning, middle and even the end). This certainly isn't the first time I've been prayed for and they weren't the first to genuinely care. The whole thing stood out to me though the way a familiar scripture suddenly breathes something brand new for the moment you are in.
I made my way to my Sunday school class after hiding at the end of the hallway to get a few tears out. My head and face were hurting from holding it all in. Just then my cell phone rang and it was a man from my class checking to see if I made it to church. He had arranged several generous meals for my family and wanted to know if I was picking them up or if he would need to drive them to our house - about an hour away. I let him know I was there, got myself together and walked into class. The lesson was fantastic and although it was relevant to my personal situation (the way that every song on the radio seems written for you right after a break up) it was also a great diversion. When it was over more friends came up to me to find out what they could do and how they could help. One man even encouraged me to receive graciously whatever help is offered. That was a "full-circle" moment for me because God has been saying that same thing to me over the past year or so. Who knew?
The point of all of this is to say that I left heavy and returned light. I've always thought that I have friends but this experience has really proven that my friends are truer and more dear than I ever knew. People have risen to meet every need. Not just the ones I mentioned in this update but all along. Schooling my kids (really well) in my absence, providing transportation, sending money, helping me restructure Harry's business so he can get back to "normal" earlier, prayer, prayer and more prayer, sitting up late at night with me,
On the way home from Raleigh, after church, my son called from Harry's room. I got to talk to Harry for a few minutes and he told what a great day it had been for him. He was able to eat chicken by himself and he felt he had more control over his hands. I could hear him smiling over the phone. He was happy. I haven't seen that side of my husband (and best friend) for several days and knowing that he was better today made me happy, too. I've been asking everyone to pray for Harry's well-being and seeing the fruit of it was incredible.
I just wanted to share with my friends how incredible God has been to us during this. He truly can make something out of nothing. And in one day he can turn big things around. One of the discussion questions in Sunday school was "Can God's word help us in hard times? How?". I almost burst into laughter but I managed to raise my hand instead. For me, God's word and more importantly, knowing him personally, is THE ONLY hope we have. If I thought that this whole situation was up to me this whole blog would read very differently. I've experienced that peace that passing all understanding. Even when I wasn't sure what I would find the ER that first night there was an calm and a security. If you don't know God personally you may not understand but it's like even if the situation was as bad as it could be I still knew that God had my best interest at heart and that he would sustain me and our children.
I don't want to take anything away from those of you who have given so generously...I am truly grateful for each gift and sacrifice you've made. I believe that God himself will repay you more than we ever could for your kindness to our family. I thank you all and am happy to report that my sweet husband is soundly sleeping and in less pain than he's been in since this happened. A few minutes ago he thanked me for taking such good care of him and asked me if I knew that I was his favorite person in the world. I am pleased, and honored, to say Yes. I do.
PS: I have pictures ready to email as soon as I can figure out how to attach them. :)
I wanted so badly to go to church where I could just rest...not catch up on neglected laundry and cleaning, plan for the upcoming week of school or even worry about what would be cooked for dinner. I really wanted to be refreshed and refilled...I'm feeling so tired and depleted. I didn't even have the energy to analyze my self-centeredness. I just embraced it and got even more excited about relaxing and being spoon fed a message of truth and hope.
Once at church I felt myself shrink from my usual outgoing self...I wanted to be there but I didn't want anyone to talk to me. I found myself looking away from familiar faces to avoid small talk. Nothing personal I just knew I couldn't handle questions or polite conversation. Then, I ran into a sweet couple - new friends - who inquired about Harry when they saw me alone. I realized they hadn't heard so I told the story...a quick version. And then, the question, "How are YOU doing?" The next thing I knew they were offering, with great sincerity, to help in any way we needed. They prayed for me and my family in the hallway. For a moment, I faded out of the circle of prayer and saw us as the body of Christ...operating the way we were meant to. God was smiling. I didn't feel like a burden...I think because they didn't take our problems on themselves they just joined with me and we ran directly back to the Lord. The only One who knows the whole story (beginning, middle and even the end). This certainly isn't the first time I've been prayed for and they weren't the first to genuinely care. The whole thing stood out to me though the way a familiar scripture suddenly breathes something brand new for the moment you are in.
I made my way to my Sunday school class after hiding at the end of the hallway to get a few tears out. My head and face were hurting from holding it all in. Just then my cell phone rang and it was a man from my class checking to see if I made it to church. He had arranged several generous meals for my family and wanted to know if I was picking them up or if he would need to drive them to our house - about an hour away. I let him know I was there, got myself together and walked into class. The lesson was fantastic and although it was relevant to my personal situation (the way that every song on the radio seems written for you right after a break up) it was also a great diversion. When it was over more friends came up to me to find out what they could do and how they could help. One man even encouraged me to receive graciously whatever help is offered. That was a "full-circle" moment for me because God has been saying that same thing to me over the past year or so. Who knew?
The point of all of this is to say that I left heavy and returned light. I've always thought that I have friends but this experience has really proven that my friends are truer and more dear than I ever knew. People have risen to meet every need. Not just the ones I mentioned in this update but all along. Schooling my kids (really well) in my absence, providing transportation, sending money, helping me restructure Harry's business so he can get back to "normal" earlier, prayer, prayer and more prayer, sitting up late at night with me,
On the way home from Raleigh, after church, my son called from Harry's room. I got to talk to Harry for a few minutes and he told what a great day it had been for him. He was able to eat chicken by himself and he felt he had more control over his hands. I could hear him smiling over the phone. He was happy. I haven't seen that side of my husband (and best friend) for several days and knowing that he was better today made me happy, too. I've been asking everyone to pray for Harry's well-being and seeing the fruit of it was incredible.
I just wanted to share with my friends how incredible God has been to us during this. He truly can make something out of nothing. And in one day he can turn big things around. One of the discussion questions in Sunday school was "Can God's word help us in hard times? How?". I almost burst into laughter but I managed to raise my hand instead. For me, God's word and more importantly, knowing him personally, is THE ONLY hope we have. If I thought that this whole situation was up to me this whole blog would read very differently. I've experienced that peace that passing all understanding. Even when I wasn't sure what I would find the ER that first night there was an calm and a security. If you don't know God personally you may not understand but it's like even if the situation was as bad as it could be I still knew that God had my best interest at heart and that he would sustain me and our children.
I don't want to take anything away from those of you who have given so generously...I am truly grateful for each gift and sacrifice you've made. I believe that God himself will repay you more than we ever could for your kindness to our family. I thank you all and am happy to report that my sweet husband is soundly sleeping and in less pain than he's been in since this happened. A few minutes ago he thanked me for taking such good care of him and asked me if I knew that I was his favorite person in the world. I am pleased, and honored, to say Yes. I do.
PS: I have pictures ready to email as soon as I can figure out how to attach them. :)
Sunday, March 2, 2008
PayPal Instructions from Shelley
Kristie asked that I post instructions on how to send money to Harry's Recovery Fund through the PayPal account we set up. It's very easy and secure.
1) Go to http://www.paypal.com
2) If you don't have a paypal account, follow the instructions to set one up.
3) If you already have a paypal account, go to "send money".
4) The church's email address is carpentersshop@gmail.com .
5) Follow the instructions from there and you're done!
If anyone has any further questions about the process, please email Shelley at the above address.
1) Go to http://www.paypal.com
2) If you don't have a paypal account, follow the instructions to set one up.
3) If you already have a paypal account, go to "send money".
4) The church's email address is carpentersshop@gmail.com .
5) Follow the instructions from there and you're done!
If anyone has any further questions about the process, please email Shelley at the above address.
Pictures to Come
Just wanted to let you know that I've been taking some pictures to sort of document this time in our family's life. Some of you may wonder why would we want to remember something like this...but good or bad it's making up a part of our life and depending on how we choose to handle it this could be one of our families most pivotal times. Anyway, as soon as I'm able to upload them I'll try to post some so that those of you too far to visit can get an idea of what Harry is busy overcoming.
Saturday Continued
Last nights move from Duke to Maria Parham (located in Henderson-5 min. from our house) was a great success. It seems we've arrived at the perfect time. Saturdays are light therapy days - only 1/2 day and then Sundays are off completely. Starting Monday morning the REAL work will begin.
It's been recommended by the therapists that I stay so I can assist him and so I can be trained to continue to assist him once we're home. I think he'll be here about a week.
Today, Harry walked some (with the Swedish Walker) and tried dressing himself (loose T-shirt and loose pj pants). He needed a lot of help but he did well for his first attempt. It was a little sad to see how little control or mobility he had with his left hand/wrist. I think it really got to him today. Later, we talked a little and I think he was reassured.
This evening, the kids came by and we all watched a movie in Harry's room. It was nice and felt kind of normal...which did us all some good. Tomorrow McKenzie is going to come by and sit with Harry so I can go to church. I'm really looking forward to it. It's nice to get out and back into "real life". But it's even better than home right now because home just reminds me of all of the stuff I'm behind on.
I feel really good about the boys spending some time together. I think it'll be really good for both of them. Harry misses the kids and McK sure could use some Daddy time.
I'm leaving pretty early in the morning, so I probably won't be able to write again until the afternoon or evening.
I know I keep writing Thank yous to everyone but I really mean it and just knowing that so many of our friends care so deeply is an incredible blessing. So....thank you....again! Goodnight.
PS: More blessings have come - in the form of food in our freezer and 5 post dated checks (to help in the coming months). What generous and incredibly thoughtful gifts. Thanks to all of you who are helping with immediate & practical needs. Blessings to you.
It's been recommended by the therapists that I stay so I can assist him and so I can be trained to continue to assist him once we're home. I think he'll be here about a week.
Today, Harry walked some (with the Swedish Walker) and tried dressing himself (loose T-shirt and loose pj pants). He needed a lot of help but he did well for his first attempt. It was a little sad to see how little control or mobility he had with his left hand/wrist. I think it really got to him today. Later, we talked a little and I think he was reassured.
This evening, the kids came by and we all watched a movie in Harry's room. It was nice and felt kind of normal...which did us all some good. Tomorrow McKenzie is going to come by and sit with Harry so I can go to church. I'm really looking forward to it. It's nice to get out and back into "real life". But it's even better than home right now because home just reminds me of all of the stuff I'm behind on.
I feel really good about the boys spending some time together. I think it'll be really good for both of them. Harry misses the kids and McK sure could use some Daddy time.
I'm leaving pretty early in the morning, so I probably won't be able to write again until the afternoon or evening.
I know I keep writing Thank yous to everyone but I really mean it and just knowing that so many of our friends care so deeply is an incredible blessing. So....thank you....again! Goodnight.
PS: More blessings have come - in the form of food in our freezer and 5 post dated checks (to help in the coming months). What generous and incredibly thoughtful gifts. Thanks to all of you who are helping with immediate & practical needs. Blessings to you.
Saturday, March 1, 2008
Saturday Morning
Last night's move from Duke to Maria Parham (located in Henderson-5 min. from our house) was a great success. It seems we've arrived at the perfect time. Saturdays are light therapy days - only 1/2 day and then Sundays are off completely. Starting Monday morning he'll be doing about 3 hours (spread out over the day). About an hour and a half of occupational therapy (bathing, dressing, fine motor skills, etc) and the same for physical therapy (walking, sitting, bigger movements, etc). They seem very nice and knowledgable...which is a great combination.
The food is better here by far, another plus. The atmosphere is very different. Not that they "baby" patients in the hospital but in this rehab center their goal in definitely independence. They are on a schedule and are expected to be ready and on time for their appointments. Everyone is willing to help but it feels like the responsibility lies with the patient to get motivated. Great so far!
I spent the night last night (in an actual recliner...ooooh luxury compared to the floor) so help him get settled in. Also, because he arrived after their admission hours he couldn't be assessed until this morning so they wouldn't let him out of the bed. Literally, even to use the restroom. So, he felt more comfortable with a partner with him. The cool thing was the kids felt more comfortable with me staying with him, too, since it was his first night. McKenzie said" Oh, Mama, stay with him. I would want you to stay if it were me." That made leaving them again (for the 10th night) easier.
I'll write more in a little while.
The food is better here by far, another plus. The atmosphere is very different. Not that they "baby" patients in the hospital but in this rehab center their goal in definitely independence. They are on a schedule and are expected to be ready and on time for their appointments. Everyone is willing to help but it feels like the responsibility lies with the patient to get motivated. Great so far!
I spent the night last night (in an actual recliner...ooooh luxury compared to the floor) so help him get settled in. Also, because he arrived after their admission hours he couldn't be assessed until this morning so they wouldn't let him out of the bed. Literally, even to use the restroom. So, he felt more comfortable with a partner with him. The cool thing was the kids felt more comfortable with me staying with him, too, since it was his first night. McKenzie said" Oh, Mama, stay with him. I would want you to stay if it were me." That made leaving them again (for the 10th night) easier.
I'll write more in a little while.
Friday, February 29, 2008
One More From Kristie
One last word before I turn this off and pack it up.....you should see these emts crammed in this little room with Harry, who can't stand or walk by himself. It's downright silly. He's doing great and it's nice to see him interacting with some regular guys. Talk to you again soon.
Great News
The ambulance is here and the nurse is taking all of his IVs out of his feet and getting his last set of vitals. They should be loading him up and transporting him to Henderson in a few minutes. I'll be following close behind, Nan is on her way to pick me and all of our stuff up. I've got to close the laptop and pack up to go so that's all the news for now. I'll update again once we get him settled in his new room. Prayers for safe and comfortable travel along the way.
To Transfer or Not to Transfer
Just spoke with Joyce, our patient resource manager & the one overseeing our transfer to Maria Parham. Still waiting for insurance...the hold up is that they have a record of Harry coming to ER but no record of his 8 day stay and being in need of "acute care". Therefore, they can't okay a secondary phase. They are working hard to even get a verbal okay so we can move ahead. Insurance companies aren't usually open on weekends so if we can't move tonight it looks like we'll be here until Mon. (oooh nooo). Also, just found out that the ambulance has been asked to come at 5pm (that's their earliest next availability) and Maria Parham has agreed to let him in later than they wanted to....so, all of that just to say we don't know. I'll just post an update when we know we are moving so people know where to find us.
Update From Kristie 2:20 pm
We are counting down the next ten minutes to find out our fate...Either we move to Maria Parham or we stay here another night. If the insurance company doesn't come through by 2:30pm then we reschedule departure for tomorrow.....Only 5 minutes left...the nurse has removed his catheter so he'll be ready just in case...I've packed us up.....4 more minutes.....He's sitting up in his chair resting from his big walk (second one today) down the hall....Okay, 3 minutes and counting....Harry just relayed the information that he'll probably be brought back here to Duke in about 2 weeks to have the plate(s) in his left hand....2 more minutes and still no word yet (is this enough drama? do you feel like you're watching a reality show on TV? The results....right after this commercial break....[music plays too loud and too intensely!].....We'll let you know what we find out.....Stay tuned....
Friday - Mid Afternoon
Just spoke with the Patient Resource person...UPDATE: PT and OT want to move Harry to Maria Parham for acute rehab. They have a bed available for him but we are waiting to hear from our insurance. Apparently, there is a 3 step process. Steps 1 and 2 were completed yesterday and we're hangin on for step 3. Maria Parham wants him by 4 so we'd have to leave Duke no later than 3pm. An ambulance and other details are being arranged now (and can be canceled later if nec). Hopefully, all will come together at the right time and we'll be moving.
If not, we'll just start the process over again for tomorrow. No real big deal.
If not, we'll just start the process over again for tomorrow. No real big deal.
Early Friday Morning - from Kristie
Our Dr. just left the room. He told us that Harry is doing well. No one seems to be concerned about the flow murmur in his heart...they want him to follow up with his general doc at home.
Physical Therapy is really pushing for Harry to be transported via ambulance to a rehab center instead of being stuffed in a car and taken home. We're basically just waiting for an available bed at Maria Parham. I don't know yet if they've secured one for him or not. We'll find out more as the day goes on. As soon as I know when they plan to move him I'll let everyone know.
Physical Therapy is really pushing for Harry to be transported via ambulance to a rehab center instead of being stuffed in a car and taken home. We're basically just waiting for an available bed at Maria Parham. I don't know yet if they've secured one for him or not. We'll find out more as the day goes on. As soon as I know when they plan to move him I'll let everyone know.
PayPal Info
I've been asked by several people how they can give and to please post directions on the website. So, humbly and gratefully I do so. Our dear friends have set up a Pay Pal account. All gifts go through a church (The Carpenter's Shop) so it is tax deductible. I believe all you have to do is email Shelley from the site (carpentersshop@gmail.com) and she'll get all the detailed info to you. If there is more to it than that I'll post a correction tomorrow.
Thank you to all of our friends and family. Please remember, not all gifts look the same. Caring for my children (& helping with their schooling), transportation, food, prayer, kind words, visits, fielding calls, relief at the hospital, extending kindness to my children or inviting them somewhere to take their minds off of things, etc. are all valuable gifts to me and my family. I know those things don't "pay the bills" but I firmly believe that God will take FULL care of us either through you or another way. I just don't want any of our friends or family who aren't in a position to give monetarily to feel like their efforts and concern are less than those of others. All of your kindnesses are appreciated. We love you all and value your friendship more than you may know.
Many of you have called or emailed to inquire as to how we (me and the kids) are doing. My wonderful mother, Nan, has completely rescued my whole family by practically moving in this last week to care for everyone and hold down the fort while I'm gone. She didn't have time to pack a bag but she hasn't let that get her down. She presses on taking care of business both with Curves and the house. I can't thank her enough. Braelyn is strong and practical. She seems to be doing pretty well. I miss her desperately and can't wait to be close to her again. McKenzie seems to be taking things a little harder. He's more emotional and not quite as sure of things right now. I wish I were there to pull him into my lap and reassure him. I'm sure that once we come home and McK can see Daddy improving for himself he'll feel better and probably get back to "normal". Ta'Ray is in it with us to the end. She's at that awesome age where she can really step in in my absence. She's able to snuggle the kids, help with chores, come to visit and even rub my shoulders just when I need it (she's studying massage therapy, ya know)
I am doing pretty well....running on fumes and hospital food (except for the most excellent food that Jimmy & Bev have managed to smuggle in). My body is tired and my emotions feel raw but I'm not discouraged. I love my family and the way we operate together. Life isn't always fun but we are in it together and that makes such a difference. We know who God is...especially Braelyn and her belief is humbling. She's so inspiring to me the way she just determines to do what is best. I love that about her. We know that God will provide for us. The amazing thing is the peace I've had about this whole situation. I guess I "should" be panicked or scared or crying or something....but I really can't (unless I think about the ridiculous chair that I'm supposed to be "reclining" in next to Harry's hospital bed). I just see so many blessings that can and, I believe, will come from this. At the very least, our kids (all 3 of them) will have a practical example of how we, as people of faith, respond in challenging and unsure times. Sure, everything around us is changing but our god NEVER does. What a gift that is. We never would have volunteered for this experience but we have so much to gain if we choose to embrace it. I guess I just see this whole thing as a way for God to take us further and deeper than he ever has. I am so looking forward to what's on the other side for us....all of us. And I see all of you as part of the blessing he has planned for us. So, again, thank you for all you've done and will do. We love you.
Sincerely, Kristie and Family
Thank you to all of our friends and family. Please remember, not all gifts look the same. Caring for my children (& helping with their schooling), transportation, food, prayer, kind words, visits, fielding calls, relief at the hospital, extending kindness to my children or inviting them somewhere to take their minds off of things, etc. are all valuable gifts to me and my family. I know those things don't "pay the bills" but I firmly believe that God will take FULL care of us either through you or another way. I just don't want any of our friends or family who aren't in a position to give monetarily to feel like their efforts and concern are less than those of others. All of your kindnesses are appreciated. We love you all and value your friendship more than you may know.
Many of you have called or emailed to inquire as to how we (me and the kids) are doing. My wonderful mother, Nan, has completely rescued my whole family by practically moving in this last week to care for everyone and hold down the fort while I'm gone. She didn't have time to pack a bag but she hasn't let that get her down. She presses on taking care of business both with Curves and the house. I can't thank her enough. Braelyn is strong and practical. She seems to be doing pretty well. I miss her desperately and can't wait to be close to her again. McKenzie seems to be taking things a little harder. He's more emotional and not quite as sure of things right now. I wish I were there to pull him into my lap and reassure him. I'm sure that once we come home and McK can see Daddy improving for himself he'll feel better and probably get back to "normal". Ta'Ray is in it with us to the end. She's at that awesome age where she can really step in in my absence. She's able to snuggle the kids, help with chores, come to visit and even rub my shoulders just when I need it (she's studying massage therapy, ya know)
I am doing pretty well....running on fumes and hospital food (except for the most excellent food that Jimmy & Bev have managed to smuggle in). My body is tired and my emotions feel raw but I'm not discouraged. I love my family and the way we operate together. Life isn't always fun but we are in it together and that makes such a difference. We know who God is...especially Braelyn and her belief is humbling. She's so inspiring to me the way she just determines to do what is best. I love that about her. We know that God will provide for us. The amazing thing is the peace I've had about this whole situation. I guess I "should" be panicked or scared or crying or something....but I really can't (unless I think about the ridiculous chair that I'm supposed to be "reclining" in next to Harry's hospital bed). I just see so many blessings that can and, I believe, will come from this. At the very least, our kids (all 3 of them) will have a practical example of how we, as people of faith, respond in challenging and unsure times. Sure, everything around us is changing but our god NEVER does. What a gift that is. We never would have volunteered for this experience but we have so much to gain if we choose to embrace it. I guess I just see this whole thing as a way for God to take us further and deeper than he ever has. I am so looking forward to what's on the other side for us....all of us. And I see all of you as part of the blessing he has planned for us. So, again, thank you for all you've done and will do. We love you.
Sincerely, Kristie and Family
Thursday, February 28, 2008
Update from Kristie, Thursday afternoon
As you know, last night was rough. He took medication to block some of the narcotics and it heated him up internally. He got really scared and his heart rate increased rapidly. Alarms went off and our room filled up with nurses and a doctor. What? No one brought balloons? I sat faithfully by his side and watched his numbers for oxygen and heart rate go up and down just monitoring to make sure they stayed within a safe range. Finally, about 3:00am or so I got the okay from the doc that he didn't have to be watched so fervently. Aaah, my humble pallet on the floor never felt so great.
Harry walked today!!! Twice in the hallway outside of his room. He's moving his knee better so getting up and down is more realistic and less painful...this is definitely progress where we come from.
He also is working on grasping things with his hand(s) as possible. We've even adapted plastic utensils so that they are thick enough for his swollen fingers. Since surgery his arm casts have been reduced and no longer go all the way up to his shoulders. With his elbows able to bend a whole new world has opened up. In a little while we'll test out our new "James Bond" gadgets!
We're gonna try hard to get some rest. Thanks again for the outpouring of concern and support. I'll write again when I feel good about trying to form sentences again.
Harry walked today!!! Twice in the hallway outside of his room. He's moving his knee better so getting up and down is more realistic and less painful...this is definitely progress where we come from.
He also is working on grasping things with his hand(s) as possible. We've even adapted plastic utensils so that they are thick enough for his swollen fingers. Since surgery his arm casts have been reduced and no longer go all the way up to his shoulders. With his elbows able to bend a whole new world has opened up. In a little while we'll test out our new "James Bond" gadgets!
We're gonna try hard to get some rest. Thanks again for the outpouring of concern and support. I'll write again when I feel good about trying to form sentences again.
Update 1:30 a.m.
We find ourselves in an interesting situation. Harry's pain level requires large doses of medicine. However, he becomes so affected by the medication that his oxygen levels drop below what's safe. That means that if he takes the meds we can't let him sleep (that would explain why I'm writing an update at 1:30am) and if we lower his amount of meds he can't sleep because of pain (that would explain why he hasn't slept since yesterday)
His body has significantly less blood (clinically speaking) in it than it did when he arrived. The lower blood levels would also help explain why he's struggling with appropriate oxygen levels - even while he's hooked up to the oxygen machine.
I am sitting in a chair beside his bed watching the numbers on a Pulse Oximeter. As his rate drops from the safe 90's into the 80's, I speak to him to breath deeply trying to bring the numbers before the alarm sounds. He slips into the 80's every few minutes. I hate disturbing him but there is no alternative.
About his rehab...I'm so proud of his ability to push himself safely. He is not satisfied to do the least he makes himself push through the intense pain to exceed everyone's expectations. But he's not being a martyr or even being unwise. He's struck the perfect balance and his mobility is proving it. Everyone is impressed with his ability to get up, move around (he "walked" around the room today) and even sit up for hours at a time. Tomorrow they fully expect him to walk out in the hallway. It's time for the double robe (one in front and one 'round back) Can't wait.
Tomorrow we hope to hear results from the EKG and maybe also about going to an acute rehab facility. I'll let you know what I'm able to find out.
His body has significantly less blood (clinically speaking) in it than it did when he arrived. The lower blood levels would also help explain why he's struggling with appropriate oxygen levels - even while he's hooked up to the oxygen machine.
I am sitting in a chair beside his bed watching the numbers on a Pulse Oximeter. As his rate drops from the safe 90's into the 80's, I speak to him to breath deeply trying to bring the numbers before the alarm sounds. He slips into the 80's every few minutes. I hate disturbing him but there is no alternative.
About his rehab...I'm so proud of his ability to push himself safely. He is not satisfied to do the least he makes himself push through the intense pain to exceed everyone's expectations. But he's not being a martyr or even being unwise. He's struck the perfect balance and his mobility is proving it. Everyone is impressed with his ability to get up, move around (he "walked" around the room today) and even sit up for hours at a time. Tomorrow they fully expect him to walk out in the hallway. It's time for the double robe (one in front and one 'round back) Can't wait.
Tomorrow we hope to hear results from the EKG and maybe also about going to an acute rehab facility. I'll let you know what I'm able to find out.
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Latest Update from Kristie
PT is here now and is very impressed by the progress he's making in his knee. He's able to bend and straighten that knee without seriously intense or disabling pain. He's about to stand with the help of his therapist and the assistance of a modified walker (he can't bear ANY weight on his arms at all at this point). He's going to sit in the special chair for a few hours. Later today an occupational therapist will come by and discuss everyday activities and what he'll be able to expect to do and what point in the future. He'll be exhausted by the end of today and hopefully he'll be able to sleep some. (I'm about to give him another bird bath -while he's propped up- so maybe the warm soap and water will help him relax, too.)
More News from Kristie
Harry is fighting some depression today. He knows it will be a long road to recovery but he also feels a little defeated since the pain and immobility is greater today. He's trying not to give into the feelings of being overwhelmed and frustrated. We're trying to keep him entertained but mostly he's just not "in the mood".
His work responsibilities are also weighing on him. I think he's restless, and Jimmy is right, he may go crazy if he can't get involved at some point over these next several weeks/months. He's expressing great concern for his clients and their projects. I think he's feeling like he's let EVERYONE (family, friends, colleagues and clients) down and would love to be able to spring back and make things right again. He also knows that not only his family, but also The Chalmers, depend on the income that comes from their work together. Just another thanks to everyone for the visits, cards, etc. I think it helps to know he's got friends and family who are praying and are concerned about him.
His work responsibilities are also weighing on him. I think he's restless, and Jimmy is right, he may go crazy if he can't get involved at some point over these next several weeks/months. He's expressing great concern for his clients and their projects. I think he's feeling like he's let EVERYONE (family, friends, colleagues and clients) down and would love to be able to spring back and make things right again. He also knows that not only his family, but also The Chalmers, depend on the income that comes from their work together. Just another thanks to everyone for the visits, cards, etc. I think it helps to know he's got friends and family who are praying and are concerned about him.
Another Update From Kristie
An EKG was ordered after a cardio doc came in to examine Harry. They've brought a portable machine into the room and have finished. We won't know any findings until "later" -whenever that is. We'll let everyone know asap. -Kristie
Additional Update from Kristie - More Prayer
Yesterday, an irregularity was found in Harry's heart. Apparently, after 2 different sets of x-rays it appears to be a benign heart "flow murmur". My best understanding is that it only means that his heart is pumping large amounts of blood very intensely. It's probably nothing but they are bringing up docs from cardio just to check him out. After all, it is his heart and we want that to be working properly! We'll keep you posted. Thanks for your prayers.
Today's Update from Kristie
Harry's double wrist surgery took about 8-81/2 hours yesterday. He returned in a lot of pain and general discomfort but in good spirits overall. He was excited about getting the operation over and being able to move into the "recovery" phase. The doctors have visited us this morning and explained the procedure: they placed a metal plate on the top (inside) of his left hand and a metal plate on the bottom (inside) of his right hand. The plate will have to be removed from the left hand sometime later. GOOD NEWS: there doesn't seem to be any serious nerve damage and he should be able to regain "full" use of his left wrist/hand. LESS GOOD NEWS: He may not be able to do all of the same things he could before with that left wrist and his chances of developing arthritis have increased exponentially. He's also expected to live with a certain measure of "permanent" pain.
MORE GOOD NEWS: The mobility in his leg is increasing beautifully. Harry is so strong and determined. He works very hard and pushes through the pain to make progress.
A knock at the door just brought more news....They are now saying that they want him to be transferred to an acute rehab facility. Since we live in Henderson they are looking into Maria Parham. We won't know anything for sure until at least later this afternoon. The Physical Therapist will come by about 1:30pm to work with him and they along with the Occupational Therapist will consult and give an update to the doctors about Harry's condition and ability to be moved to another facility (or home based on availability, insurance, necessity, etc.)
The pain and normal hospital interruptions have effectively prevented any sleep for him. We're thankful that he's finally gotten some stronger pain meds. He is trying hard to sleep some now. Suddenly, I feel more like a bouncer than a nurse....Keeping vigilant watch at the door and turning every caller away to protect the little rest he may finally find.
I'll update again later as we have more to report. Thanks again for everyone's support and concern.
MORE GOOD NEWS: The mobility in his leg is increasing beautifully. Harry is so strong and determined. He works very hard and pushes through the pain to make progress.
A knock at the door just brought more news....They are now saying that they want him to be transferred to an acute rehab facility. Since we live in Henderson they are looking into Maria Parham. We won't know anything for sure until at least later this afternoon. The Physical Therapist will come by about 1:30pm to work with him and they along with the Occupational Therapist will consult and give an update to the doctors about Harry's condition and ability to be moved to another facility (or home based on availability, insurance, necessity, etc.)
The pain and normal hospital interruptions have effectively prevented any sleep for him. We're thankful that he's finally gotten some stronger pain meds. He is trying hard to sleep some now. Suddenly, I feel more like a bouncer than a nurse....Keeping vigilant watch at the door and turning every caller away to protect the little rest he may finally find.
I'll update again later as we have more to report. Thanks again for everyone's support and concern.
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
Update from Kristie 3:10p.m.
Harry has been taken to surgery. It's expected to take between 4 and 5 hours. They hope to complete operations on both wrists. If, however, it begins to take too long they will stop and reschedule an additional surgery for the second wrist at a later date. We don't really know what that means yet.
Also, the idea of Harry being moved to a residential facility to receive physical therapy has been all but abandoned. Not that it wouldn't be best for him...everyone agrees it would be best. But, doctors are saying that at his age and present overall health (strong, young, no med conditions, etc.) there isn't an insurance company on planet earth that would approve a request like that from him.
The bad news, of course, is that life will be a little complicated as we do the necessary PT at home together...on our own. But the good news is that it's not a matter of life or death and we'll ultimately be fine. (just less convenient and we can get over that)
I want to sincerely thank each and every person who has called, come by, taken care of my children, prayed for us, offered your home or a ride, sent a card, flowers, food, balloons, well wishes or money, or even wanted to. The outpouring of friendship and generosity has been overwhelming. I always felt we had dear friends but I had no idea how loving and helpful or how many we had. I thank God for you and am sure that you are all a part of His plan to help us overcome this challenge. Thank you again on behalf of myself, Harry and our children.
I'll let you know how the surgery goes as soon as I know something. Thanks again.
Also, the idea of Harry being moved to a residential facility to receive physical therapy has been all but abandoned. Not that it wouldn't be best for him...everyone agrees it would be best. But, doctors are saying that at his age and present overall health (strong, young, no med conditions, etc.) there isn't an insurance company on planet earth that would approve a request like that from him.
The bad news, of course, is that life will be a little complicated as we do the necessary PT at home together...on our own. But the good news is that it's not a matter of life or death and we'll ultimately be fine. (just less convenient and we can get over that)
I want to sincerely thank each and every person who has called, come by, taken care of my children, prayed for us, offered your home or a ride, sent a card, flowers, food, balloons, well wishes or money, or even wanted to. The outpouring of friendship and generosity has been overwhelming. I always felt we had dear friends but I had no idea how loving and helpful or how many we had. I thank God for you and am sure that you are all a part of His plan to help us overcome this challenge. Thank you again on behalf of myself, Harry and our children.
I'll let you know how the surgery goes as soon as I know something. Thanks again.
The Latest
Harry is scheduled for his second surgery this afternoon around 3:00. Please continue to pray about his wrists and the damage to the left one. We hopefully, will know something more about the prognosis after today's surgery.
On the general front, he is sitting up and able to move his leg (no cast - medicine has come a long way!) As you can imagine though, not having the use of either arm is at the very least frustrating. Just think, he can't even scratch his nose or use a remote. His leg is hurting, the scars from that surgery beginning to heal (itch), and again he has no way of scratching.
Harry was in fairly good spirits when Jimmy went to the hospital yesterday. There were able to talk for a while and set out a game plan on how to finish up the lingering construction projects, so that was good.
Please continue to pray. Will post when we know something from the surgery.
On the general front, he is sitting up and able to move his leg (no cast - medicine has come a long way!) As you can imagine though, not having the use of either arm is at the very least frustrating. Just think, he can't even scratch his nose or use a remote. His leg is hurting, the scars from that surgery beginning to heal (itch), and again he has no way of scratching.
Harry was in fairly good spirits when Jimmy went to the hospital yesterday. There were able to talk for a while and set out a game plan on how to finish up the lingering construction projects, so that was good.
Please continue to pray. Will post when we know something from the surgery.
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Third email update ... (again personal contact information has been deleted).
Just a brief update... Harry is doing much better today; medications are regulated and he's lucid and coherent. He's been sitting up and stood up long enough for Kristie to give him a sponge bath. He still has two shoulder casts so things are bit challenging to say the least. As things stand now, he'll go back into surgery on Tuesday for the wrist repairs. Please continue to pray about the left wrist especially.
After surgery, they are saying he'll be in the hospital til the weekend and then be transferred to a rehab facility for about a week. No further details on that. We'll keep you posted.
We have now set up a church PayPal account to receive funds that way as well as by check or cash. We are continuing to collect monies to be given to the Polk family for their living expenses during the upcoming weeks and months. The PayPal email address is XXXXXXXXXXXXXX if anyone wishes to contribute that way.
Harry's still in room XXXX at Duke Hospital. If anyone is heading up to see him, please give Kristie a call prior to leaving our area to see if she needs anything from home or otherwise. Her cell number is xxx-xxx-xxxx.
Thank you all for your continued prayers.
More updates to follow.
Saturday, February 23, 2008
Update #2
The second email update ... (Harry's room number has been deleted, if you are interested in receiving this information, please post accordingly. Thanks!)
Not much new to report this morning. They are stilling awaiting word from the surgeon on how things will progress with the wrist reconstruction. As soon as we know anything, I'll forward the information. As of right now he is in room XXXX at Duke, again could change with further surgeries, etc.
Jimmy and I have set up a Harry Recovery Fund through the Carpenter's Shop for donations to the Polk family. Harry has medical insurance (Praise God!), however, being a small company, he did not carry any disability. Therefore, the daily expenses of living go on, with no coverage. We had several inquiries yesterday, so that's probably the best way to handle monetary donations at the moment. If any of you would like to donate, please make checks payable to The Carpenter's Shop and we will disburse them as they come in. 100% of all donations will go directly to the Polks to help in whatever way they see fit (gas, food, etc.)
This is just the beginning of a long process, so please continue to pray.
I'll send updates as I receive them.
Friday, February 22, 2008
How We Find Ourselves Needing A Recovery Blog
This is the email that I sent out to our church family and friends with the details of how we have come to need a recovery blog...
Wanted to update you on an ongoing situation. Yesterday evening as Jimmy and Harry were finishing up on their project for the evening, Harry slipped while on the roof and fell to the ground some 14+ feet. EMT's transported him immediately to Duke Hospital where he underwent surgery to fix the femur in his left leg. Additionally both of his wrists are broken with the prognosis of the left one being uncertain at this time. He will undergo further surgery in the coming weeks to repair both wrists and we'll know more about the extent of the permanent damage at that point. A major praise is that there appears to be no spinal damage, no damage to his internal organs or head and the surgeon said last night after putting his leg back together that it will be fine. We do have a few requests for prayer ...
1) Continued healing, wisdom for the doctors as they attempt reconstructive surgery on the left wrist especially.
2) Pain control. Anyone who has ever either fallen, or had a broken bone, knows the level of discomfort/pain can be difficult to handle not only at the beginning but in the weeks to come.
3) Jimmy. Please pray for wisdom as he attempts to move forward on several construction projects without Harry. Jimmy is left to finish the projects so that income will continue to flow into the Polk home (Harry had no disability insurance).
4) Kristie and the kids. Recovery will be long and difficult on everyone involved. Please pray for them as the healing path unwinds. As one who has had a husband with two broken wrists (fully casted to the shoulders), I know very well the joys and trials that await them. Prayer and patience will see them through, but it is not an easy time to put it mildly.
I'll keep you all updated as the days progress.
Thank you for your prayers! I look forward to watching God's hand continue to unfold in this situation and make something amazing out of what now looks like chaos.
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